WHAT IS THIS EPISODE ABOUT?
I talk about how your mind is a muscle, and how the more you use it, the sharper it becomes.
WHY SHOULD I LISTEN?
There was this time that I signed a $30,000 contract that I had to pay. I was so scared. I put $15,000 down because I didn’t have the money and I went to go start this new venture and this was a huge risk that so many people advised me not to do. They thought that I was crazy.
Why would I take such a big risk?
It’s simple. Because I want to learn. Because I want to try this new thing. I wanted to get uncomfortable because every single time that I’ve tried something new and I’ve been uncomfortable, even if I’ve failed, it put me in a new position to learn.
I show you how trying new things actually makes you smarter, and able to accomplish things that others can’t.
I go in and break down how the brain works and reacts to things.
WHERE CAN I LEARN MORE?
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WHEN DID IT AIR?
January 24, 2019
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I tell people this and they’re like, Josh, that’s counter-intuitive and I’m like, I know it’s counter-intuitive, but that doesn’t mean it’s not true. It’s how it works, and once you figure out that that’s how it works and you understand and accept that that’s how it works and you just go do it, then guess what? You’re going to be really, really smart and you’re going to be able to understand, comprehend and accomplish things that nobody else can. Why? Because you’ve done this and they haven’t.
01:13 You are now entering a new paradigm. So, here was my issue. I wanted to find the answers to life’s biggest questions. Things like how do I become happy and live with purpose? How do I make more money doing what I love and what does it mean to be truly successful in all areas of life? My name is Josh Forti @joshforti on Instagram and I ask life’s biggest questions and share the answers with you. My goal is to help you find purpose, happiness, and open your mind to new realms of possibility by helping you think differently about everything you do know and understand on this podcast. We think different, we dream bigger and we live in a world without minutes. This is a new paradigm. Welcome to The Think Different Theory.
01:15 What’s going on guys? Welcome back to another episode of The Think Different Theory. My name is Josh Forti and we’re on episode number 14. We just finished up a great episode yesterday about being happy. I hope that all of you guys are able to go and start being a little bit happier. That was a really good episode and I really liked making that one and ironically I had a really bad day yesterday when I actually filmed that episode, but I went and chose to be happy. I chose to see the bright side of things and that’s what inspired that episode about being happy because I was choosing to be happy even after a bad day. But nevertheless, let’s dive into today’s episode, episode number 14, which is all about why you should try new things and how trying new things actually makes you smarter and will allow you to actually go and be able to figure out and solve problems that other people aren’t going to figure out and be able to solve and have confidence.
02:06 Wow. Gosh, I started there. Okay. Have confidence to do other new things and to have confidence to go and do things that other people might be terrified to do and things that you may be terrified to do and if you’re terrified to do something, the best thing that you can possibly do is go and do it or try new things until you have the confidence to go and do that thing and I’m going to explain kind of the the mental breakdown of how that happens. Like what goes on in your mind, and I’m going to sound really smart in this episode, but in reality, I’m not really that smart. I’ve just studied this and I’ve recognized how to apply this in my own life and I’ve recognized that it’s true in my life. I’ve seen this to be true when I go out and apply this for myself when I go and do this for myself every single time without fail, I come back and I’m like, wow, that was so cool.
02:49 I learned this and I learned this and I learned this. I want to break that all down for you here, but I really want to talk to about trying new things. Why is it important for your life and why you need to go and do it yourself? All right, very, very important. And, uh, hopefully by the time you’re done with this, I kind of give you the push that you need to go out and try that thing that you’re contemplating doing. So let’s dive in. So about, oh gosh, this would have been four years ago now, probably. Yeah, probably four years ago. I ventured into a new world, a world that I had never experienced before, a world that I knew nothing about, and that was absolutely terrifying. And that a large majority of people that I told about this thought I would fail in.
03:32 And that is the world of the Internet. Now you might be thinking, okay, well, um, that’s, yeah, that’s interesting. Like, what do you mean see it guys? I grew up on a farm. I grew up in a very small town with a lot of small-town thinkers and that doesn’t make them bad people, but it means that a lot of people around the area that I grew up with grew up with a very limited mindset. They don’t understand what’s possible. They don’t understand or they don’t even know how to think differently than the way that they think now. And obviously, this podcast is all about thinking different. So I really wanted to explore this. Um, so I got, I got started. I was, I don’t know, maybe 21 years older. So I was working in the insurance space and I got started into Instagram now I got started into Instagram.
04:18 I’m actually, let me back up. I got started into the Internet marketing space before Instagram. I got on Google and I started googling like ways to make money online and this kind of this new scary space of the Internet where I grew up kind of thinking like the Internet was bad and evil and my parents were kind of like anti the internet which I get. They were trying to protect me, but like there’s a whole new world. Something that I had never done, I had no experience with. Now oftentimes people are very scared of the unknown and they’re scared to go and try new things because they don’t know what will happen when they try new things. And that is because we as humans naturally like comfort and we naturally like security. We don’t like to be pushed out of our comfort zone and we don’t like the unknown because if something happens that we can’t control, all of the sudden then life becomes out of our control and we’re afraid that we’re going to lose everything.
05:05 Or we’re gonna lose our money or lose our job or, or be looked at differently or weird. And that’s uncomfortable for us. And really the reason that we don’t like to leave our comfort zone or try new things is that we don’t like to be uncomfortable. That’s really what it comes down to. Okay. But for me, I was young, 21 years old. I was ambitious. I really had these big dreams and big goals. And I was, I was fearless at the time. Now. I was almost stupidly fearless at the time. But nonetheless I was going out and I was venturing into this new area of the intranet, which for me was social media. And the first thing that I ever did was facebook ads. And I did facebook ads trying to sell a Harry Potter books. And I set up a little website and I put my Harry Potter book up there on an affiliate for Amazon.
05:48 I didn’t even know what an affiliate was and I spent like $1,500 on this whole ordeal and I lost a bunch of money and it, um, it, it didn’t work out. And I was very, very sad and depressed. And I was like, this sucks. Right? But when something happened there in my brain that day that I didn’t realize was happening at the time, my brain adjusts to the circumstance that I was in. Okay. I went and I was used to spending my money. I wasn’t very smart with my money. I was kind of foolish with it when I was dumb when I was young, I would not spend it on, you know, fast food or candy and you know, that that was a lot of money back when I didn’t have any money. Like that’s been 20 bucks here, 50 bucks there kind of without thinking about it.
06:27 Right. And I didn’t really have a lot of money saved up. I wasn’t really smart with it. But at about $1,500 saved up when I started. Well then I blew all my $1,500 and that was supposed to make me rich. That was supposed to make me tons of money and it didn’t. And then guess what? I had to adjust and I had to shift. And yes, it was very uncomfortable at the time and I was very scared and freaked out and nervous at the time. But I learned a lesson through that and my mind shifted, my mind, adjusted my whole life, adjusted around this and I adapted and now I have learned something new that I didn’t know before I knew what things didn’t work and I knew what things did work and there’s only a couple of things that I learned that worked, but in most of it I learned didn’t work, but now my mind was opened up to come to this new reality, this new realm of what was possible because even though I failed, I saw other people around me like making it work and then I had a more clear direction of the way that I wanted to go because I was like, okay, well what’s next then?
07:21 And so now rather than going and spending all this money, I became really scared because I didn’t have a lot of money. So I suddenly got way more smart with my money and I ended up buying a book called Rich Dad Poor Dad. That was the first book I ever read outside of like a school book. The first book I voluntarily read outside of school. Crazy right? And so then I started studying that and I started learning how money worked and that was the effect of, of me trying this new thing that ultimately failed, but now my mind was opened up to this new possibility of what was possible because I got exposed to new things. If I would’ve stayed in my job and never would have tried this new thing, never would have gone off and try this website and spent his money and done that. I would have never picked up the Book Book Rich Dad, poor dad.
08:01 I would have never had my mindset shifted about money and I never would have gone down this journey. And so I started spending less. I started saving more and I started, you know, being more smart with my money. And then the next opportunity came along. I didn’t have a lot of money at the time, but it was an Instagram course. And so this Instagram course came along and I wanted to get it, but I didn’t have the money for it. And so guess what? I shifted and adjusted again because I tried this new thing. I wanted to go try this other thing and so this Instagram course was that next thing for me and so my mind was like, okay, how do I go and get that? I, you know, I read this book called Rich Dad, poor dad, which talks about not I don’t have the money for, but rather ask the question of how could I get or how could I afford x and that, that symbol mind shift for me, allow me to go out and start driving for Uber and start flipping stuff on craigslist and stuff.
08:50 Start flipping stuff on Facebook Messenger. And then I was eventually able to afford this course and so I had a thousand dollars saved up. I bought the course. Well actually I only had $800 saved up and of course, went on sale for a thousand bucks. I bought it, put it on a credit card and then continued to pay off those $200 and now I was broke again. But I had this new course and I had this new venture that I could go on, and so I sat down and I started diving into all of that and I started learning this new opportunity. Super duper scary. But my entire life now shifted and in a matter of like, you know, six months I went from knowing nothing about Instagram, knowing nothing about Internet marketing, knowing nothing about investing money, nothing about saving my money and being smart with it too now, simply by trying a couple of new things and being okay with being uncomfortable.
09:33 I had the ability to read Rich Dad, poor dad, figured out that Facebook ads and affiliate marketing didn’t go well together for me at the time because I was stupid and didn’t know what I was doing. I figured out that Instagram was something that I wanted to do that I wanted to go down and these little things I like trying new things led me down this path. And guess what? The more and more that I went and tried new things, the more and more confident I became. And then all the sudden, one day, like, I don’t know, nine months after, it was probably a year or so, probably a year. Well, I guess from the time that I started, everything is probably a year and a half. About a year and a half after I started this whole journey into the online space, I took a really big risk and I tried something brand spanking new that I was terrified.
10:17 I was so, so scared to do it. And I invested. I signed a $30,000 contract that I had to pay. I put $15,000 down because I didn’t have the money and I went to go start this new venture and this was a huge risk, a huge thing that so many people advised me not to do. They were like, why would you, you know, my parents and you know, some of the people that like Josh and I have the money like this is crazy. Why are you doing this? And I’m like because I want to learn because I want to try this new thing. I want to get uncomfortable because every single time that I’ve tried something new and I’ve been uncomfortable before, even if I’ve failed is put me in a new position to learn. It’s put me in a new reality of life that I wasn’t in before and that I was better prepared to tackle the next thing of life because of it, and so I took this risk and guess what?
11:04 That particular risks that 15,000 or $30,000 ended up failing miserably or it was so bad. I don’t have time to go into the story on that, but it was just. It was awful. Like I ended up losing a bunch of money. I lost $15,000. I didn’t recoup my investment back. All sorts of bad stuff happened, but through that, once again, now I’m in the hole. I’m broke even more. I’m even more embarrassed and guess what? It forced my life and forced my reality to change and my mind had to shift and had to adapt to that reality and how to adapt to what I was doing and I learned because now my reality was different. My circumstances were different. I was in this new world. I had to learn again and I learned stuff from that and I went on and continued to do this until I got to where I’m at today and even like we just announced with Vivid New Media, right?
11:54 That that’s my consulting company. I went and I’m taking this huge, massive risk. Why? Because the worst thing that can happen is I can fail and learn a ton and I can go out and learn how to better solve problems, but after, after I sold my first company, I started asking myself the question of why this was okay. Why was it that when I try new things, I was naturally more confident to try other new things. Why was it that I was better set up for success when I would try these new things? Then when I didn’t do, we didn’t take risks and didn’t go out and try new things and so I started trying to figure out like what was the actual thing that was going on in my mind so that I could better understand it and better explain it to you? Because if I know something, I want to understand how it works so that I can explain it to you so that I can better help you go out and do the same thing as the purpose of this podcast.
12:45 Right? So I asked myself the question of why is it that when I try new things, my life typically seems to be better. I even when I fail, I get smarter and I’m more confident to do other new things even if I have failed, like why is that? And that’s when I started recognizing and realizing that our mind is a muscle and I want you to think about this. Okay? If you sat around all day, you never worked out. He ate bad food. Yeah. You did things that just were not healthy and, and were not things that you did on a healthy diet. Like, you know, as I said, it didn’t work out and just sat around and got lazy all day. You got fat and lazy. Okay. Guess what? You’re going to sit there and you’re gonna go, well, if I try to run, I’m going to be exhausted after a quarter mile because I’ve not used that muscle.
13:36 I have not used those things. I’m exhausted. I’m asking to do to my muscles to do things that they’re not trained to do. And if I tried to go and you know, lift weights, I would be dead after like one or two reps, right? Because I’m not using my muscle actively. Well, that’s exactly how our brain works. So think about it this way. Every single day you have a routine, okay, so you wake up, you do your morning routine, you go to, excuse me, you go to work. I mean maybe you have a healthy routine, maybe you don’t, but at the end of the day, most people are not actively pushing their mind to the next level. They’re not actively going out there and trying new things, which means that their mind is not actively being worked. Now, even if you don’t go to the gym every day, if you’re not actively working out in the gym, you have the ability to walk from point a to point b with your muscles just fine, right?
14:26 Like you’re not going to die walking from here to your car if you know you don’t go to the gym every day. Why? Because like your muscles are being used on a daily basis, more or less for the little things of life walking back and forth and you know, making dinner and doing whatever you do. The same thing is true with our mind on a daily basis. Our mine has to figure out how to, you know, make sure that we stay alive and you know, go back and forth in the car and make basic decisions and whatnot. But if we asked them to do anything more than that, they would be like, whoa, this is so hard. We can’t do it. After like five or 10 minutes, then be exhausted. The mind is the same way. If you go and you ask your mind to do something, the very first time that you’re asking your mind to do something new, something that has never done before, it’s going to be super scared because it’s unknown and leaving this comfort zone and it’s going to be exhausted because now all of a sudden it’s working in ways that it has never worked before and it’s like the very first time you go to the gym, the first time you go to the gym, you’re exhausted.
15:24 After like the first or second day you’re like, oh my gosh. I’m feeling like I’m dying. I’m never going to go back. But if you do it over and over and over and over and over again, those like 10 ways that you lifted on the first day feel like cake. You know, six months or a year from now. They’re like, what? Like? Or say? It’s like that’s what you were complaining about. The same thing is true with their mind and when we try new things, we are asking our mind to go places and to work out things and solve problems that it’s never had to solve before. That it’s never had to do before, so right away it gets tired and so if you try one new thing, that might be really, really hard for you, but if you continue to try new things, all the sudden it becomes easier and easier and easier.
16:04 Why? Because now your mind has adapted. It knows that it’s going to be worked. It’s expecting to work. It’s built up that muscle to go actually out there and figure out how to adapt and it gets less and less scary. Why? Because now your mind has seen so many different circumstances. It’s not used to just sitting there in one place anymore. It’s used to the unknown and when you. The first time you see something unknown, you have nothing to base it off against. You’re like, oh my gosh, I’ve only ever known my comfort zone, so anything outside of your comfort zone is scary and you don’t want to venture there, but if you’ve done 150 things outside of your outside of your comfort zone, your brain is going to look at something and go, yeah, I don’t know what that is, but I’ve seen a million other things that I don’t know what it is and not all worked out fine.
16:49 We’ll just adapt and figure it out as we go. Hey, your brain’s going to start doing that, and it starts to learn how to solve problems. It starts to learn how to adapt. Just like when you go to the gym and you’re in really good shape when you try to work new muscles or do new exercises, yeah, they might be a little bit more difficult than a typical exercise, but they’re not anything like it was starting completely from scratch because your muscles are used to being worked. They know how to adjust to pressure. They know how to adjust to your stress. That is the exact same thing that happens in your mind. The more you try new things, the more you go out there and do things that are unknown to you, the more your mind is going to go, oh, I know how to deal with that.
17:31 So like right now, maybe you’re wanting to start a new business. Maybe you’re right. Now you’re trying. You know you’re, you’re trying to start a side hustle or you’re trying to go into music or trying to start an Instagram account and you’re like, I don’t know, this is scary. I don’t want to invest this $500. I don’t want to invest a thousand dollars. I don’t want to take this risk. I don’t want to take the time off work to go try this because what if it fails? Who cares if it fails? It doesn’t matter because your goal, you’re not going to do it just one time. If you want to have success with something, you gotta do it over and over and over and over again and you’re not going to have success the first time that you try something. You shouldn’t want to have success because if you do have success, the very first time that you try something, that means you’re not really working your muscle.
18:14 Your brain is not really going out there and learning a new skill and in five or 10 years from now as you go and as you learn these skills, someone, if you took two people side by side, okay, if there was two of you and one of you did the same thing over and over and over and over and over again for the next five years, they never pushed themselves. They never went out there and are. You never went out there and you know, try new things or learn new skills or anything like that. You’re going to sit there and in five years from now, you’re just going to be really good at doing the exact same thing that you’re doing right now, which is lame and boring and you’ve never done anything with your life, but if you go out there and in five years from now you go and every single day you’re trying something new.
18:56 You’re taking new risks. You’re pushing your mind, you’re reading new books, you’re spending money to learn new skills. You’re taking risks, you’re succeeding, you’re failing, you’re doing all these different things. Your mind is going to know how to adapt. You’re going to be smarter. You’re going to go and you’re gonna. Figure out how to solve problems and do all those things, and in five years from then, if you took those exact two same people and you gave them both the exact same equipment, the exact same project, the exact same tools. Let’s say you’re like, Hey, you both have $500. Now go out and you know, make money with it. Even if you had never made money before by trying all those new things your mind like let’s say you try it and we’re taking risk in like yoga and photography and podcasting and this and that, and like none of them were directly related to making money, simply because your mind is used to the unknown.
19:43 Your mind is used to being able to go out there and solve problems and try new things and all that. You’re going to have more success because you’ve trained your mind to figure out how to do new things. You’ve trained your mind to recognize how to solve problems. You’ve trained your mind to actually go out there and take advantage of the situations and the other person or the other version of you have not, so you’re going to win every time whether or not you have money or resources or finances or whatever it is, you’re going to be able to go out and figure out how to solve problems and that’s what’s ultimately going to make you successful. If you’re not successful right away, that’s fine. You’re learning. Give yourself a year or two or three or four. That’s why consistency is the most important factor in success.
20:26 I firmly believe that. Okay, and that’s where another podcast episode, but the next time you’re faced with a decision of, do I do this or do I not a do it, take the risk. Go be uncomfortable because even if you fail, you’re so much further along than the person that didn’t do it simply because you’re trying new things and they’re not and I recommend trying consistent things right in a row. Okay. Like, like trying or being consistent of trying new things right in a row like, Hey, I’m going to do this, and then as soon as that’s done, try another new thing, try another new thing or it doesn’t have to be completely separate categories. Maybe you’re in business and it’s like, all right, I just made an uncomfortable risk and I took this and I made it to go try another one or I failed.
21:08 Now go try another one. Try it again. Try something else, try something new, try something that’s gonna further you along. Why? Because it’s going to continue to move you forward. All right, hope you found value in this episode. Please hit me up in the DM on Instagram. Take the screenshots and oppose the script. Tag me in them. The more pictures that I see of you guys listening to this, I know what you like, that I know what you don’t like, and the more times you share out the podcast, the more people are gonna. Be able to see this and just get this message of positivity and love and personal development out to the world and we can make the world a better place and that is what this is all about. All right? All right guys. As always, hustle, hustle. God bless you. Not Be afraid to think different because those of us that think different are going to be the ones that changed the world.
21:48 I love you and I will see you in the next episode. Take it easy fam piece. Yo, what’s up guys? You’ve been listening to the think different theory with myself, Josh Forti, which I like to call a new paradigm of thinking and real quick, I got a question for you. Did you like this episode? If you did, I want to ask a huge favor. See the biggest thing that helps this podcast grow and that will spread this message of positivity and making the world a better place is if you leave a review or rating and subscribe to the podcast. What that does is it basically tells the platforms that this is out on, that you liked my stuff and that I’m doing something right, so if you could take like three seconds out of your day and subscribe, leave a rating and review, I will be forever grateful for you. Also, I want to hear from you, I want to know your feedback, your ideas, and your questions for future episodes, so be sure to hit me up on Instagram in the DM @joshforti or via email firstname.lastname@example.org