Think Different Theory

What Does it Take to Be “The Boss”?


In this episode, I’m going to talk about leadership. I’m going to spend some time talking about how being a leader means being a servant and talk about other characteristics of a true leader.


I’m going to cover the most important things to consider when you’re a leader –  whether that is on social media, in your business, or elsewhere.  This view of leadership might be different from the examples you’ve seen in your own life, but I think it’s crucial to understand so that you can be the best leader you can be.

Here are the key topics discussed in this episode:

  • 10 or 11 different points or different things of what it actually means to be a leader
  • A leader was first a servant (3:46)
  • What a leader really need to be (5:42)
  • What to communicate to keep your team engaged (12:32)
  • The most valuable tip for teams (14:03)
  • Why getting out of your comfort zone is needed (15:08)


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February 13, 2019


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A leader is not someone that just goes around and gets to be in charge and gets all the credit and is the boss. A leader takes all the blame. A leader has to lead when everybody hates him and when it’s hard. A leader leads by example and is first and foremost a servant, not a leader.


What’s up guys welcome back to another episode of the think different theory. My name is Josh Forti and we are on episode number 25. So welcome back to the show and a very exciting and important episode for you here today. In fact, I think that if this is dropping when I think it’s gonna be dropping, this is gonna be dropping on a Wednesday, I think that’s when this is dropping.


But I want to talk specifically in this episode about what it means to be a leader, and the leader could also be interchanged with the boss. Okay, so a good leader, a good boss, like, what does that look like? And what does that mean? Because I see a lot of people out there, a lot of people that are my age and they’re, you know, 20s and early and late 20s, late teens, early 30s, that like, they look at bosses or they look at leaders and they think that they’re all in it for themselves and that they’re just bossing everybody around and, you know, not having to do much work and that’d be awesome to be a leader because you get to make all the decisions and make everybody else do the work and, you know, get paid more or, you know, basically get to be in charge and they miss what really goes into being a leader and specifically a good leader.


And obviously, we all know that there are bad leaders out there, but I believe that if you are listening to the Think Different Theory you are called to be a leader and you will be a leader someday in your own way. And I think that we’re all called and we all have different roles in our lives where we do have to lead, whether that’s leading a company, or leading a team, or leading a friend group, or maybe just leading a project that we’re working on.


And I think that throughout life, some of us are natural born leaders. Naturally, you know, called to lead. And some of us like myself will have large audiences that you lead and others might not have a large audience. But I think that we all do lead in some aspect or another in at some point within our lives. Everybody, I think does at some point or another.


So I want to look at what it really means to be a good leader because I don’t think this is being talked about enough. And this is not a sexy topic. This is not a topic of Oh yeah, like it’s going to get, you know, tons of people listening in on it, because being a leader is hard. Being a leader is boring. And by the end of this episode, I really want to kind of break down and go over I don’t know like maybe 10 or 11 different points or different things of what it actually means to be a leader what that looks like a good leader and what that you know what that looks like and the elements and the traits of that because I think all of us have it have it messed up. I think so many people think that leadership means one thing. And good leadership does not mean that at all. So let’s dive in here. All right.


I remember going, and when I was, gosh, I probably would have been 16 years old. 16/17 years old. I went to a program it was I used to go to this horse ranch up in Pennsylvania called Miracle Mountain Ranch. And they had a program in the wintertime it was in February. So it’s in the middle of winter. And it was called SALT. And just, you know, S-A-L-T and it stood for that was an acronym for Servant, Attitude, Leadership, Training. All right. And so I went for two years in a row, it was I think, was an eight or nine-day program, or eight or nine need like camp, that you’d go out there and you will learn all about the different things of what it meant to actually be a good leader.


And you know, at the time it was one of those things where all of this stuff like this is that type of stuff that my mom and dad were teaching me all the time. So I didn’t really take it seriously. And it wasn’t till years later that I realized that so many of the things that they were talking about were true. And so many things that they were talking about, like actually really, really applied in so many areas of life. And the key thing that I remember about this particular training and they did really, really good, I mean, they, they really taught about leadership. They were a whole camp kind of dedication towards this. The key thing that they talked about was that a leader was first a servant.


And at first, I’m like, what, okay, like, whatever. Cool. That’s like, great, but like, what does that actually mean? And what does that actually look like? Because in today’s society, we look at our bosses, we look at the leaders of whoever’s leading us and I think we kind of tend to think that they’re, they’re above us, right? And if you’ve been in a leadership position as I have, it’s very easy to think like I am your boss, you will do what it is that I say and not argue or, you know, whatever it is back. If you’re an employer and you have employees or in a management position, it’s very easy to do that but a good leader, good leadership, people that lead a team effectively, they serve first.


Good leaders of audiences, whether that’s on Instagram, on social media, in person, in business, in a career, wherever it is good leaders serve first. They’re the ones that are going to be down there in the trenches. They’re the ones that are going to be helping to get their hands dirty. They’re the ones that are going to show up early and stay late, they are the ones that are going to make sure that every single person on their team has the tools and has the skill set as to succeed and is in a position to win and to succeed. They’re the ones that are ultimately going to be sacrificing the most and serving the most if you’re a good leader.


Because the rest of the team is responsible for themselves. The rest of the team is responsible for getting their project done. They can clock in and they can clock out or they can just finish their task and then be done. But a leader is someone that’s constantly going around and making sure that everyone is taken care of and their responsibilities are, everyone.


Do you ever noticed that like, maybe when you’re in a group setting or you’re working on a project, and you know, maybe going back, you had this in college or in, you know, high school or, you know, in summer camp or whatever, you have maybe a team of three people, or five people, or 10 people, or even 20 people, 30 people, you know, you’ve got a team though. And the person that would finish first, you know, there was like, two types of people that they would finish first, and they’ve kind of just be done and they’d hang out or maybe they’d rub it in that they were first or whatever. But then there was that person there that was the one that once they got done, they went around and they helped others. They went around and after they completed theirs they were like, hey, how can I help you over here? Hey, how can I, you know, how can I serve you here, hey, if you did this, this would really speed you up. And their goal was to lift others up with them. They did more work, they had to exude more energy they were constantly going out and helping other people. They were going out of their way to help others and serve others.


Those were the people that we called what those are the people that were recognizing that we called the leaders of the group, those people’s, if you’ve ever been a server at a restaurant, right, the servers that went above and beyond, to really step it up that showed up early, and were on time and encouraged others and motivated them and kept a positive attitude. Those were the type of people that the boss refers to as the leader of the group, right?


And I remember I used to work at Olive Garden, I used to be a server and there was a server there. His name is Tyler.  And Tyler, he looked just like Thor, I’m telling you, like, he had the long hair, he had the beard, he had the face, he had the muscles. He was tall, like, he was Thor. It was crazy. Tattoos, everything and he was the dude always in a good mood. always in a good attitude. Always showing up early and on time, always willing to help out even if he had a bad day. He was helping other people out. He was a leader. He was a servant, right? He would serve serve serve.


That’s leadership. Leadership is serving. Leadership is not going out of your way and being like, Oh no, you take care of that. That’s not my job. Oh, make sure you do this. That’s my job leadership is going to an employee or someone that’s under you and going, Hey, I noticed you didn’t finish this. Was there a reason? How can we help make sure that that doesn’t happen again? How can we make sure that your needs are taken care of leadership is being able to recognize when people are in a team that not doing well, recognizing that and helping them get to the level that they need to perform at. Leadership is being a servant.


So that’s first and foremost, I think it’s so so crucially important to talk about that and realize that if you want to be a leader of a group, if you want to have a following on Instagram or on social media, if you want to lead a company, if you want to go to a networking event, and really be the leader, serve, serve, serve first, always, always be the servant that is what’s going to get you to the leadership position, right.


So a couple of notes, things that I’ve written down here about leadership above and beyond that, I want to go through these things here. And these have come from a variety of different articles that I’ve studied and read. In fact, after this SALT, that after I went to SALT for several years, I applied a lot of those things and using those tactics actually got me a very well life. I, you know, I did some really cool things with the things that I learned there.


And then after I got a job in sales I sold I even health insurance to companies so I sold b2b and my boss, her name was Cheryl, awesome lady, owe her a tremendous amount. She made me read a book. And that book was called Good to Great and it was all about leadership and leadership and business and how great leaders inspire action and all sorts of really cool stuff. And I learned a lot through that book as well. And I think the thing that I learned the most through that book and the thing that like the second part of leadership, or the other side of leadership of servants that I learned through that book is how hard it is to be a leader when things are not going right, and to really take a stand and make the tough decisions really the core elements of being able to stand up for what is right and do the right thing.


And so some of the notes that I have written down here is your job as a leader is not to be loved. It’s not to seek the approval and appraise of others. But it is to do the right thing every time. You as a leader is your goal. It is your job to lead, okay, especially in today’s society, you’ve got to lead and you do that by not being right but by doing the right thing. I’m sorry, by not by being loved and seeking the praise of others but by doing the right thing because most of the time the majority of people are wrong. Most of the time the majority of people are not able to see quite literally like past their noses. They can’t get out of themselves and see the bigger picture and so it’s your responsibility to well first be able to see things that other people are not able to


To be able to go out there and see the vision and stay true to that, and know the direction that you need to go and be confident in that, and then make the decision to follow that vision and do what is right, regardless of what everybody else thinks. Now, usually, when the right thing is done, there will be resistance. Usually, there will be strife and chaos and people will hate you and say, You made the wrong decision, and there will be ups and downs, but when it works out, then you’re going to receive the praise. But you’ve got to be willing to make those hard decisions. You’ve got to be willing to go against what everybody else is thinking and saying. Excuse me. Gotta be going up, be willing to go against what everybody else is thinking and saying and follow what you know to be true and right even if that is absolutely going to cause so many people to hate you. You’ve got to do what’s right.


People are waiting and looking to you to make the tough decisions and you have got to be able to make those tough decisions and when you make them, make sure that you do what is right. So you’ve got to be able to serve kind of step number one leader is a servant, you are not a leader. If you are not a servant, period. Next, you’ve got to be able to see the vision and stick to that and do what is right. No matter what, always do the right thing. Be willing to make those tough decisions. That’s kind of a two-fold thing. So be a leader, see the vision, do what’s right, regardless of what everybody else is telling you to do.


The next thing when it comes to being a leader is you’ve got to do so and make these tough decisions and lead and serve with love. You’ve got to be able to communicate this love and this vision to your team. You’ve got to be able to look at your following and go Hey, look, this is what we’re going to do and even if they disagree with you, not just yell at them, explain it to them. Try to get them on your side. Try to show them why it is what you’re doing. Stay true to what you do. But communicate that with love. You’ve got to be loving. You’ve got to be kind. And this goes right along with being a servant, a leader. A boss is not someone that goes, this is what we’re doing. Tough luck. Let’s go. That’s not a leader.


That’s a bad boss. That’s a bad leader. Okay? That’s just someone that’s like a dictator, a leader leads the team, they don’t drag the team, they lead the team. Think about that word leading is not dragging. It’s not pulling them along with you. It’s pointing them and leading them in the direction that they need to be going. All right. That’s very, very important. You got to do so with love and kindness, and really understand the needs of the team. And that’s the next thing. You’ve got to listen. You’ve got to observe and you’ve got to be able to spot strengths and weaknesses in your team. You’ve got to know what things people do right and people do wrong. What things people are good at or not so good at.


And you’ve got to be able to put people in their position of strength and eliminate people from their area of weakness in order for the team to run smoothly and get to where it is that you want to go. And you’ve got to listen, you got to observe, you got to be able to take feedback, both positive and negative, there’s going to be a lot of criticism.


The founder of Starbucks said that as he reflected back on his years of managing Starbucks, he said, One thing’s for sure it is really, really easy to lead when everything is going right. And when everything is you know, going your way. It is very, very hard to lead when things are not going your way when you are in the face of adversity. And you’ve got to be able to make those strong decisions and then you’ve got to be able to go communicate your idea to the team and find the right people to fill that gap and make the team go forward. And you could only go through and do that by listening. By observing and by taking that feedback back from them, and really understanding what their needs and desires are. All right.


Next, you have got to be able and willing to get out of your comfort zone and do the things that are hard to do. Do the things that make you uncomfortable and do the things that even if you’re scared of doing them, doing them anyway, you’ve got to be fearless and outside of your comfort zone. Leadership is not for people that want to stay in their comfort zone. Leadership is not for people that want to just take a backseat and go, yeah, wherever we’re going, it’s cool. No. Leadership is for those that are strong. Leadership is for those that are willing to get out of their comfort zone and really take charge and it’s so super important.


And I really think that leadership is the ability to communicate to the team in such a way and really like sell them on your vision, your passion, like, you’ve got to believe in what you do. And you’ve got to be so passionate and believe that like, with complete certainty that people buy into that vision as well. Because if you as a leader are not sold on your vision, if you’re not sold on where you’re going, as a leader, your team, your group, the people that are looking for you to lead, they’re going to be doubtful, too. And if you’re not certain, they’re not going to be certain. So I think it’s very, very important that you believe.


And I, I want you to understand that this is true in all areas of life, no matter how big or small it is, that your group is, the people that you’re leading. It could be two people can be you and one other person, if you’re the leader, if you’re the person that’s leading that other person, you’ve got to recognize all these things, you’ve got to believe you’ve got to do so with kindness. You’ve got to make that hard decision. Even when they’re mad at you. You’ve got to double down on their strengths and have them not do their weaknesses. You’ve got to find the things that make it right.


You got to do so with love. You got to do all these things and get outside of your comfort zone. And that’s true with a 10 person team, or a 20 person team, or a 500 person team, or a 5 million person team. Whatever that is, you’ve got to go and you’ve got to lead and you’ve got to have all of these things. Or I’m sorry, all of these things do apply to all levels of the team, no matter what. No matter how big or small that it is, and that, that’s leadership. That is what it takes to go out there and actually create something great and whatever area in your life you’re at right now that you have to be a leader in. Remember these things. Remember that if you want to get to the next position in your job if you want to get to, you know, that pay raise, you want to get more followers or hire more team members or whatever that thing is where you’re the leader. Start with being a servant. Start with understanding what your team needs to start with understanding their strengths and weaknesses. Start by listening to them and then go and share with them why you believe in what you believe in, share with them where you’re going and why you’re going that way. And if they fight it and they think you’re making the wrong decision, try to communicate to them on why you’re making that decision and stay true to who you are. Stand firm, but do so with love and do so with kindness. That is leadership, not this fake version of leadership that so many people out there today think that is leadership, it’s just not the case. Alright.


This has been The Think Different Theory version on leadership and what leadership actually means and what leadership actually looks like in a day to day basis or in your job in your passion in wherever it is that you are being a leader. Hope you learned something from this hit me up on Instagram @JoshForti. Let me know what you thought and let me know of a leader in your life. Who do you recognize is like a really good leader identify them. Study them and I would love to know who that is Feel free to shoot me a message over there and let me know I’d be curious, Is it your dad? Is it your boss is it you know me, is it Russell Brunson is it some other person that you follow? Who’s that leader in your life that you look to and go, that’s the definition of a good leader.


All right. As always, hustle, hustle, God bless and I will see you on the next episode. Please do not be afraid to think different because those of us that think different will be the ones that change the world. I love you all and I will see you on the next episode. Take it easy fam. Peace.