WHAT IS THIS EPISODE ABOUT?
In today’s episode, we are on day two of the 6-day mini-series, “Design Your Dream Life” and I’m going to talk about the two things that you need to achieve in order to move forward in both your personal and professional/business life.
This episode will help you figure out what you actually want to do with your life, the life you want to build, and how to really go out and get started on that successfully.
WHY SHOULD I LISTEN?
There are two key parts to finding clarity and a vision for your life, and this episode dives into both. As you’re figuring out what your passion is, it’s important to give yourself the space to try new things and see how they fit into your long-term vision. I give some suggestions on how best to figure out what it is that you want to do, and then how to go about doing it.
Here are the key topics discussed in this episode:
- Clarity with the immediate (04:07)
- Lack of clarity = little progress despite hard work (7:38)
- Clarity with the long term vision (11:18)
- Passion and fearlessly trying new things (15:58)
- Following those who’ve already done it (22:40)
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WHEN DID IT AIR?
March 6, 2019
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(0:00) People are not moving forward in their life and business, for one of two reasons. One is because they have no clarity on what to do next. And I see this a lot with people that are just starting out in business or in designing their dream life. Alright? Because it’s confusing, it’s like, I don’t know what to do. The second is similar, and it is….
(0:25) You are now entering a new paradigm. So here’s my issue. I wanted to find the answers to life’s biggest questions. Things like; how do I become happy and live with purpose? How do I make more money doing what I love and what does it mean to be truly successful in all areas of life. My name is Josh Forti, @JoshForti on Instagram, and I ask life’s biggest questions and share the answers with you. My goal is to help you find purpose, happiness, and open your mind to new realms of possibility by helping you think differently about everything you do, know, and understand.
(0:59) On this podcast, we think different, we dream bigger and we live in a world without limits. This is a new paradigm. Welcome to The Think Different Theory.
(1:10) What’s up guys? Welcome back to another episode of The Think Different Theory. My name is Josh Forti, and we are on episode number 34, and my gosh, I hope it records this time. I have recorded this stupid intro like seven times, and it just keeps cutting out. First time I wasn’t actually recording, the second time somebody called me, the third time someone called me again. I don’t know why the heck I didn’t put my computer on “Do Not Disturb” after the first time, and then Facebook went off, then Voxer went off, then all sorts of just crazy things went off. So, I think I have everything good. And, we’re going to finally get through an episode here that we’ve recorded. So, we’re on episode number 34. Welcome back to the program. If you can’t tell by now, I’m a pretty raw, open, funny, outgoing, and humorous individual. At least I tried to be.
(1:59) And, if you’re tuning in to the podcast for the first time, welcome! We are on day number two of our 6-day mini-series called “Designing your Dream Life”. And, in yesterday’s episode, I kicked it off by telling you why it’s possible, and why it’s so important to believe that it is possible. And I showed you that why in today’s day and age, no matter how old or how young, or how talented you are, none of that matters. You can go out and create your dream life and I showed you why. I talked about the change in society and how the Internet has levelled the playing field, and why it’s so important to believe in yourself. So if you missed that episode, go back to the last episode we did, episode #33. Go check it out. And, it’ll really kick this off and a lot of this will make more sense here today. Alright, so now we’re on part number two of this. Now, I really…, guys, I’ve gone out and created my dream life, and I’m still in the process of doing that. I’m still in the process constantly.
(2:55) I will be for the rest of my life, of really creating the reality that I want to create, but I have so much fun each day, and I get to meet so many cool people on the way that have also done this. This is not just me. And so, I’m telling you that if you follow these steps, and you really apply them, you can actually go out and do this. And so many people don’t believe it, and I want to drill belief into your head. I want me talking about this to sound normal. I want you to hear what I’m saying and go, “Yeah, I can totally do that” And that’s why at the beginning of each one of these podcasts, I talk about how…, in the intro, I say, “You are now entering a new paradigm”, like that’s me talking, because I want you to know that when you come into this episode, when you come into this podcast, you’re in a whole new world, you’re in a new realm of possibility. You don’t live with the limits of society. You blow them off and you live life without limits. So I want to really push a belief on you here today on that. Alright, so we’re going to be a little bit more practical, a little bit more tactical here today, as far as what this is actually going to look like, and why you don’t have the life that you want now, and how to overcome that, and actually, how to go out and do that (what you should do to figure out what it is that the life that you want to live) Alright?
(4:07) I want to start off with a story, because today, we’re going to be talking about clarity with the immediate, and clarity with the long term vision, and figuring out what the heck you actually want to do with your life, the life that you actually want to build. And the reason that entrepreneurs or anyone that’s going out to try to build their dream life, you don’t have to identify as an entrepreneur if you don’t want to. Whatever it is that you want to call yourself. The reason that most people are not moving forward in their lives and in their business is that they lack one of two things. They either lack clarity on the immediate, and what they’re supposed to do next, or they lack clarity on the long term vision of what it is that they are actually building. Alright? Or in some people’s cases, both.
(4:58) And maybe that’s you right now. Maybe you’re like, “I don’t know what to do next. I don’t know what I want to build. I just know that I want something different”. Welcome, this is for you, or if you’re struggling with either of the two that I mentioned, this is also for you. And we’re gonna talk about that here today, but I want to dive in and kick it off with a story. A story about my personal life. And, if you listened to the three episodes leading up to the raw of this mini-series, you will know my story. I talked about my story from eight years old till where I’m at today, but I want to focus in specifically on when I was first entering the entrepreneurship game, and really first starting my own business. I got into social media. So, this was shortly after my 21st birthday, yeah, I think it was my 21st birthday. I had just purchased an Instagram course. And I had no idea what the next steps were. I had no idea how to actually go out and build the business. I had no idea how to grow followers on Instagram or social media of any sort. I had no idea how to run Facebook ads or build a funnel. I didn’t know what ClickFunnels was.
(5:59) In fact, I think, ClickFunnels was just starting out at the time. I had no idea any of this stuff, but I had a vision. I had the vision to quit my job, I had the vision to work for myself, and I had the vision to go out and create a life that I wanted to live. I had no idea how, I had no idea the vehicle that I was going to use to get there, but I was bound and determined. And so I just took massive action in that general direction. And you know what that led me to, that led me to building something special. But it also led me to working really, really, really hard, and not seeing a lot of progress moving forward right away. Why? Because I lacked clarity on the next steps. I didn’t know what the next steps were, and so it took me a lot of hard work to make a little progress. Now, for me at the time, I thought it was a lot of progress, because I was like, “Holy crap, like, I’m actually doing something here.” But in reality, and this is nothing to be ashamed of, I mean, I’m not trying to discourage any beginning entrepreneur right now, like, any form of action is better than no action, but if I would have had clarity on what the next steps were, I would have gotten to where I wanted to much faster. And so at the beginning, for the first several, you know, three, four, five months, I had no direction whatsoever. And then, I found this Instagram course. And I ended up buying this Instagram course. And then all the sudden, after I bought that, I knew what the next steps were a little bit more, and my vision became a little bit more clear that I actually wanted to build an Instagram empire, or a social media empire, and go that route with business in the online business space. And so now my vision became a little bit more clear and I had a couple of the next immediate steps, and then I blew through that course, and then I had no idea what the next steps were.
(7:38) And I was confused and I was lost again, and I was working 70, 80, 90, 100 hour weeks, and seeing very little progress forward, and I was like, you know, so depressed and I couldn’t figure this out, and I was like bashing my head against the wall. And even though I was making progress, it wasn’t the real progress that I wanted to see. And so eventually, after a year and a half of working ridiculously hard on that, we did have success after paying for lots of mentors, and you know, making money and reinvesting, and making some money and reinvesting, and reinvesting, and reinvesting. I finally found some clarity along the way, but nothing like I wanted to. But by the time I had sold this company, I knew skills now, I knew what the next steps were.
(8:20) So, fast forward, I sell my company in May of the following year. And, now since I had sold this company, my vision was gone, because this company was all built around this idea that I had in my head of this Instagram empire. And now I’ve sold all my accounts, I’ve sold my agency, I’ve sold the course, I essentially have nothing but some cash in the bank, and a Facebook group, and skill sets, which, don’t get me wrong, that’s a really good place to be at, but I didn’t have a vision moving forward. And so, even though before this I didn’t have the skill sets that I needed, I knew where I was going, I knew what I wanted to build, and I knew that if I just threw all my time, money and energy in that general direction, something was going to stick and I was gonna move forward with it.
(9:10) Now, that’s not really a business model, and not really a business plan. It’s definitely not something that you can scale, but at the beginning, that’s sometimes what you’ve got to do. You just do. You just got to take massive action in that direction. But then, I got out of this spot, and I sat there and I was like, “What do I do now? I don’t even know what I want to build. And so now, I switched to the second lack of clarity. At first, I had clarity on the vision, the long term, but I had no clarity on immediate action. Now, I had clarity on immediate action. I knew how to build funnels, I knew how to run Facebook ads, I got really good at sales, I knew how to make money, but I had no idea how to actually build a business. I had no idea where it was that was trying to go to. I had no idea how to move forward with what it was that I was trying to do.
(10:10) And so now, everything really changed for me, because now I was like, “What a heck do I want to do?” And so I spent the next year of my life really just wandering. And, I had an agency where I outsource some stuff, and, you know, I made…, you know, some months it was like $8,000 or $10,000. I think my best month was like $50,000 or $60,000. I was making good money, and I would sell pretty much anything. I would sell ClickFunnels, I would sell PR deals, I would sell agency work, I would sell Instagram work, I had some consulting, I’d sell personal branding, and I was just kind of all over the place, because I was learning and I was trying new things, because I didn’t know what I wanted to do.
(10:29) I didn’t have this vision, and so I wandered because I didn’t have a vision. And here’s the thing, I wasn’t honest with myself that I didn’t know where I was going. I wasn’t honest with myself that I was still trying to figure that out. And honesty and being honest with the fact that you don’t have that clarity, is absolutely so important. What do they say, “Admittance is the first step to recovery” or something like that? It’s the same thing here. Being honest with yourself that you don’t know what you’re doing, or you don’t know where you’re going is absolutely crucial. Confusion will get the best of you if you don’t admit that you’re confused and lost. And that was me for the longest time. And I lacked this. And maybe that’s you right now, maybe you’re like, I’ve got skills, right?, but I have no idea what it is that I’m trying to build.
(11:18) Or maybe you’re like the younger version of Josh, where you’re like, “I know where I want to go, but I’ve got no clarity on what the next steps are”. Both of these will kill long term growth. Alright? Neither one of these makes you a bad person. You’re not a bad person if you don’t know what you want to build long term. You’re not a bad person if you don’t know what the next steps are. It doesn’t mean you’re not skilled in what you do. It doesn’t mean that you’re not going to make it. We’ve all been there. So if you’re sitting there right now, and you’re like, “I don’t know what I want to do with my life. I don’t know what I’m good at. I don’t know this. I don’t know that” I’ve been there, and that’s okay. In fact, quite honestly, in this game, it’s pretty normal. We’ve all been there at one time or another. Alright? So just sit back and breathe. And I want to talk to you about what to do here today. And I actually, I want to start with the ladder, meaning the long term vision part of it, because I think a lot of people don’t understand the importance of really knowing what it is that they want to build.
(12:20) So, for me, as I sat down, and I really thought about everything, and I was like, “What is it that I want to build? What is it that I want to do long term?” And by the way, I really just figured this out not too terribly long ago, several months ago, but it wasn’t like it was years ago that I ended up figuring this out. It wasn’t that long ago, and it took me a while to go and do this, but a lot of people think that in order to be a real entrepreneur, or a real person chasing their dreams, they have to know exactly what it is that they want. And they’re afraid to try new things, because other people out in the world will laugh at them, or people will think they’re confused, and not know what they want, or how to get what they want. People will think they’re weird, people will laugh at them. And I was there, I was that person. I was the one that was thinking that if I didn’t have everything figured out and together, that people were going to laugh at me and think that I was crazy. And so I acted like I did when I didn’t. When I didn’t have it all together, when I didn’t know what I wanted to do. And there’s a saying like, “Not all who wander are lost”.
(13:35) And I feel like, well maybe that’s not the perfect analogy or example to say here. I think a lot of us are in that spot or have been in that spot, because we’re sitting there and we’re like, “I know I want something more. And I’m going to wander around until I find it, but I feel kind of lost right now”. But you’re not settling. You’re not settling for less. You’re not settling for a job you hate. You’re not settling for average. And I want to applaud you for that. If you’re that person right now that doesn’t know what they want in life, but you know that you don’t want average, you know you don’t want, you know, what everybody else is telling you to do. You know you want more out of life. Congratulations. Keep that up.
(14:05) Never settle and never stop searching. And I want to give you permission right now, to go out and try new things. And I think this is something that we need more of in the entrepreneurship game, is we need people that are just willing to try things. If right now, like let’s say you are, you know, let’s say you’re in college, or you just graduated college, maybe you have a job. You know, maybe you’re working part-time and you have a little side hustle. Maybe you’re working for sales for somebody, maybe you’re working in an agency for someone, maybe you’re, you know, working at a job you don’t like, but you have interest elsewhere, and you’re like, “Oh man. Before I take the leap or before I…, you know, do anything, I gotta like, I’ve got to know the next steps. I’ve got to have everything figured out before I move forward”. Don’t feel that way. I want to encourage you right now. If you don’t know what you want, go try things. Go test different things. Now, I’m not saying try 15 new things in a day. I’m saying, go test something for a week or a month or a couple of months and see if you like it, see if it feels right. And if you don’t like it, be totally okay with changing. You got to live in what feels right to you. And for me, I mean, I live with what I believe God wants me to do, but I also live in accordance to say, “Does this feel right? Does this align with me? Does this align with my purpose? Does this align with my passion?” And if it doesn’t, I quit. I stop, no matter how far I am in.
(15:25) I remember I had an agency one time, I was doing, I don’t know, about $20,000, $22,000 a month, and I canceled all my clients because it didn’t feel right. It didn’t feel like this is the direction that I wanted to build. I wasn’t passionate about it long term. And so I gave myself permission to try new things. And I think this is something that so many people are afraid of. They’re afraid that if they try something and then they don’t like it, that people will think that they’re a failure, or themselves they’ll think they’re a failure. They tell themselves that they’re failures if they don’t follow through and stick with it long term.
(15:58) Now, I’m not saying that you should quit on everything. I’m not saying that like, Oh, just because it doesn’t work for two or three days or a month that you should quit. But what I am saying is, if it doesn’t feel right in your soul, if you’re not passionate about it, don’t feel like you have to stick with it. Even if right now you’re listening to this and you have a million dollar company, or a multimillion dollar company, you can cancel it, you can sell it, you can shut it down, you can change things. Do not feel like you have to stick with it if it doesn’t feel right. And give yourself permission to try new things. When I gave myself permission to fail. When I gave myself permission to try new things. When I gave myself to just go out and test what I wanted, because I wasn’t sure what I wanted, life became a lot easier, and I ended up finding myself in the process.
(16:43) And at the beginning, I was like, “I have no idea what I wanted”. So, I tried agency work. I didn’t really like that. And then I tried to go back into Instagram, and I wasn’t really passionate about that. And then I tried personal branding for a while, and I tried that in a certain way, and it didn’t feel right. I didn’t really like it. And so, then I tried email marketing, and then I tried to do some PR stuff, and then I tried, you know, doing some high ticket sales. I tried all these different things until I ultimately found the thing that I really, really was passionate about, which is, you know, I want to go out and help people. And I want to help people create the mindset that will allow them to go live their best life, and go live the life of their dreams.
(17:40) I’m incredibly passionate about helping people build businesses, but only build businesses in a way that’s moral and ethical, that is a reflection of conscious capitalism, and is a reflection of them living their purpose and living their dream. I have no desire to help someone build a multi-million dollar business if they hate their life every step of the way, or it’s not what they want to do. My goal is to show people that it’s possible to become any version of yourself, to use your mind to create anything and to go out and build the business of their dreams, build the passion of their dreams, the life of their dreams. That’s what I do with my life, and I’m very passionate about it, because I’m doing it, and I have done it. But I would have never gotten to that point, if I wouldn’t have tested different things. And so if you’re sitting there right now, and you’re like, “I don’t know what I want to do. I know that I want my dream life. I know that I don’t want to settle for less, but I don’t know what I want”. Go try things.
(18:21) Give yourself permission to go and try. And remember that it’s not going to make you the most money, it’s not going to drive forward your success right away. It’s not going to go and you know, like, ultimately make you a millionaire overnight. But it’s going to make you happy. It’s going to help you find your ultimate desire in life, and it’s going to give you the ultimate vision of what it is that you actually want to build. Because you can’t possibly have clarity in the next steps for very long, if you don’t know what it is that you’re ultimately building. Alright? So I want to encourage you to go try new things until you find your vision. And it’s okay, you wander for a few months, or six months, or a year, or two years. It’s okay. Try new things. And if you find something you really like, and are passionate about, and you do that for five years, then you wake up in five years and you go, “I want to change this a little bit”.
(19:13) Give yourself permission to change it. Just go out and continue to evolve and design the life that you want, the business that you want, and that vision of the future of what it is. My ultimate why, my ultimate vision, is to build a company and build a brand, and leave a legacy that inspires people to break free and find their purpose, know truth and fall in love with life, to make the world a better place. Alright? And when you…, when I can do that, when I can leave that behind, that is the ultimate success to me. That’s my Why, and that’s my vision for the future. And what that looks like for me is, different than it did six months ago, or eight months ago, or a year ago, because I allowed myself to evolve into that.
(20:07) Now moving over to the first side of things, and shifting to immediate clarity. It’s really hard to have immediate clarity for very long if you don’t have that vision. And that’s why I recommend starting with the vision. But if right now you’re like, you know, not taking action, because you don’t know what it is that you want to do long term, stop doing that. You need to go take action right now. You need to go, “Okay. I don’t know what it is that I want to build long term, but I’m going to get super clear on what my next steps are, while I go out and test things” And I see so many people that are not taking action. That are not failing, that are not going out there and taking risks, that are not, just going and trying things, because they’re like, “Well, I don’t know what I want to build long term” And I’m like, “No! You’ve got to go now and take action”. And so with that, I implore you and I beg you to say, “Okay”. Figure out something. If you don’t know what you want to do, go try something. I’m just going to use…., I’m literally just going to use the agency, for example, alright?, because I know that space well because it’s something that I did.
(20:57) So let’s say you’re sitting there and you’re like, “I don’t know what I’m passionate about. I don’t know what I want to build, I’ve got to learn a skill set, I’m gonna go do something, I’m gonna go build an agency, and I’m going to get some clients, I’m gonna do some Facebook ad lead generation for them”. Let’s just pretend. Okay? What you need to do, is you need to find a system, find a model, find the framework, find someone that has done what it is that you want to go and do and build, even if you don’t know what that is long term, but that knows the next steps, and follow in that framework. Sure, you can go and try to just go do it yourself. And, if that’s the type of person that you are, great, but for most of us, you’re going to want to go find the framework. So, go on YouTube, go on Google, download free ebooks and PDFs, buy a course, get a mentor, get someone that has what you are trying to build, and go model in their footsteps, and follow the frameworks in the systems that they have laid out there, so that you can go and see success with that. Do not try 72 different things at once. Try one, maybe two in rare exceptions, but I would I would encourage you to do one. Try one or two things at a time. Get very clear on what the immediate next steps are, and then follow through those next steps. Whether that takes you a week, or a month, or three months, follow through on those immediate next steps so that you can see results, and so that you can actually get a feel for what that looks like. I see so many people that are like, “I’m going to try agency work”, and they make two pitches to clients. They both say no, and they’re like, “Okay, this doesn’t work. I’m not passionate about it”, when in reality, they love agency work, they just quit because they didn’t have a system or a framework. So go get super clear. And just find one person that has it.
(22:40) Don’t try to follow two, or four, or seven, or 10. Find one person that has what it is that you’re trying to achieve and build, and go and follow them. There’s a saying out there that says, “The quickest way to fail is to follow nobody. The second quickest is to follow everyone”, alright? Don’t follow everyone. Follow one person that has what it is that you want, and go to everything that they say to do, and then go see if that’s something that you’re actually passionate with, after you’ve actually gone out and done it. After you’ve actually gone and seen the results of everything, and decide, “Hhhmm, do I want to do this or do I not want to do this?”
(23:17) These things are absolutely crucial and clear, and crucial and critical for your success moving forward. If you want to design your dream life, and we’re going to talk about in the next episode about designing, like, how to actually figure out what you have to do, and the person who you have to become and all that type of stuff, but right now, whatever life that you want, you got to go out and really get clear on what that is, and have that vision moving forward, because you can’t possibly get somewhere if you don’t know what where you’re going. You can’t possibly build your dream life if you don’t know what your dream is. And if you don’t know what that is, give yourself the ability to test things, and to try new things. And, once you’ve determined what it is that you’re going to try, make a clear plan of action moving forward so that you know what the next steps are. So that you have the clarity that you need moving forward. Because, the lack of clarity in the day to day, is the absolute killer of results, and the killer of success moving forward, because we will always find something to do. You will always go and find something to do. Like whether it’s washing the dishes, or watching videos on YouTube, or writing things that don’t matter. If you don’t have clarity on what the next steps are, you will fill your day with mindless crap, that does not move you forward, and doesn’t teach you anything. So get clear on the immediate steps, as you’re figuring out what your long term vision is, and once you figure out what that is that you’re trying to build, and you have your eye on, “That’s what I want to build” Go and build that, and you could only do that with clarity in your steps. Alright? So go and do that.
(24:51) If you have any questions on that whatsoever, I’m happy to answer them. Feel free to hit me up in the DM on Instagram @JoshForti. I’m happy to expound on this and answer this more, but don’t let somebody else dictate your success or failure. Block them out. If someone’s like, “You don’t know what you’re doing with your life”, be like, “I know. I’m just testing things right now. At least I’m doing that. What are you doing with your life?”, okay? Go take massive action. Ignore the haters. Ignore the critics, and just go start designing this life by going and trying and doing. I tried so many different things before I figured out what it is that I wanted to do. I’m still trying new things, as I’m going and designing my life, because I want to really have every area of my life, just what I love to do in all areas, because that’s how you get excited about life every day. That’s how you jump out of bed, and that’s how you encourage others to go live their passion as well, because you’re living your passion, and you know how amazing it feels. It feels amazing when you’re aligned with your purpose. It feels amazing when you’re in alignment with what it is that you actually want to do with your life. Alright?
(25:57) Alright guys, as always, hustle, hustle. God bless. Do not be afraid to think different, because those of us that think different are gonna be the ones that change the world. I love you and I will see you on the next episode. Take it easy fam. Peace.
(26:11) Yo, what’s up guys, you’ve been listening to The Think Different Theory with myself, Josh Forti, which I like to call, “A New Paradigm of Thinking” And real quick, I got a question for you. Did you like this episode? If you did, I want to ask a huge favor. See the biggest thing that helps this podcast grow, and that will spread this message of positivity and making the world a better place, is if you leave a review, a rating, and subscribe to the podcast. What that does is, it basically tells the platforms that this is out on, that you like my stuff, and that I’m doing something right. So, if you could take like three seconds out of your day and subscribe, leave a rating, and a review, I would be forever grateful for you. Also, I want to hear from you. I want to know your feedback, your ideas and your questions for future episodes. So be sure to hit me up on Instagram in the DM @JoshForti or via email contact@ThinkDifferentTheory.com