Think Different Theory

The Time Someone Shot a Bullet in My Pillow

WHAT IS THIS EPISODE ABOUT?

In today’s episode, I’ll start off by sharing the experience I’ve had doing Alex Charfen’s “Natural Thirst Challenge.” I’ll then talk about how important it is to be grateful to live life and how to overcome depression on those days when you’re feeling down.

WHY SHOULD I LISTEN?

To highlight that a little better, I’ll share a story about the time I almost died, and how that really shifted my perspective on life and took me through an emotional change that enabled me to be appreciative of life and what I have no matter the situation I’m in.

Here are the key topics discussed in this episode:

  • A challenge to keep you healthy and optimized (03:22)
  • The beauty of life and how it’s worth living (06:23)
  • Escaping death by a whisker (09:56)
  • Mastering an attitude of gratefulness  (14:27)
  • Looking at everything objectively (17:37)

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April 1, 2019

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EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:

00:00          I kid you not. The house that we were staying in got shot up, and a bullet went through the front of the house into my bedroom, and through the pillow that I was supposed to be sleeping on, and I was sleeping there like 10 minutes beforehand. If I would have been there, I would’ve been dead.

00:26          You are now entering a new paradigm. So, here’s my issue. I wanted to find the answers to life’s biggest questions. Things like, how do I become happy and live with purpose? How do I make more money doing what I love, and what does it mean to be truly successful in all areas of life? My name is Josh Forti @JoshForti on Instagram, and I ask life’s biggest questions and share the answers with you. My goal is to help you find purpose, happiness, and open your mind to new realms of possibility, by helping you think differently about everything you do, know, and understand. On this podcast, we think different, we dream bigger, and we live in a world without limits. This is a new paradigm. Welcome to The Think Different Theory.

01:06          What’s up guys? Welcome back to another episode of The Think Different Theory. My name is Josh Forti. And man, what a week it has been this week. I tell ya, I started this thirst challenge. There’s a guy I follow by the name of Alex Charfen, and I’ve met him actually, a couple of times, and he’s kind of big in my space, when it comes to like systems and like optimization, and all sorts of cool stuff. Anyway, he’s got this water challenge. It’s this 10-day challenge where you drink a lot of water, and you cut out everything else out of your diet from a drinking perspective. So no soda, no coffee, no anything like that. And, I started that. And basically, the premise is, right when you wake up, you drink 20 ounces of water, and then you keep a water bottle, or a glass of water within arm’s length at all times throughout the day until you go to bed.

02:00          And any single time you’re thirsty, you drink until you’re not thirsty anymore. And if you go like an hour or two without drinking, you like chug 10 to 20 more ounces to make your body want water. And so, the goal is that we’re going to get rehydrated, because apparently we’re all dehydrated to a certain extent and none of us get enough water, because your body’s not used to getting enough water, it adjusts, but if get it back to an optimal point of water, you are healthier and more energetic, and you can stay focused more, and addictions go away, and like all sorts of crazy stuff just when you stay hydrated. So let me tell you this, I started it this week. I’m on day four right now, as I’m going through this, right? And, I have gone to the bathroom so many times.

02:45          There was one day I went 14 times, 14 times in one day. Like dang, I’m just drinking so much water, but I will say, day four, cravings are definitely there for like coffee and other things, but I’m starting to feel better. I actually feel like cleaned out, and I do have more energy throughout the day. I don’t know you’re supposed to see effects that fast, but I’m actually starting to feel the effects of it. But, it’s been an interesting week. That’s my point in saying all this. And so, as I’ve been like recording podcast episodes of like had to space them out just right. And, when I’m in meetings and stuff. I was at church and I had to get up in the middle to use the restroom, because I’m like, so much water, so much liquid going in.

03:22          So anyway, if you’re interested in that, shoot me a DM on Instagram, and I can send you over the link, where you can get all the water challenge details, but it’s supposed to be healthy and optimized, which is what I’m trying to do with my life right now, is optimize it and be healthy, and all that type of jazz. So, okay. This podcast episode, I’m trying to really talk about all topics of life. You know, I talk about me trying to find my groove here with the podcast, and we’re working on right now bringing on bigger guests. Okay? So, I want to start interviewing other people, but I want to specifically do it in areas that I’m trying to figure out in my own life. And so, I would love to know your thoughts of like, who you would love to hear, and if they align with what I want to do, I’m going to try to bring them on.

04:10          And I don’t care how big or small they are, I care more about the topic. So for example, a couple of the people that we’re trying to get on are Russell Brunson, Jay Shetty. I would love to have Logan Paul on. I don’t know if I can get him. Tom Brady, like people like those people. Obviously, those are going to take a long time to get on, but those are the type of people I want to start bringing on because it’ll up the downloads obviously. And, I appreciate all of you that listen on a daily basis, I just super appreciate the fact that you listen to the podcast on a daily basis, and it just means a lot to me. So, if you have specific guests that you’re like, “Josh, you absolutely need to interview this person”, make sure to shoot me a DM on Instagram @JoshForti, and let me know.

04:47          Like I said, there’s no person necessarily too big or too small. We just want good quality people and we want people that actually have good results, and are a leader in what they do, and naturally speaking. If they’re a leader, they’re probably going to have some form of an audience, but it’s not necessarily a requirement. Anyway. So, today I want to talk about the importance of just being grateful to live life, and how to deal with days when you’re depressed, because one of the things that I’ve noticed in my own life is, I’m a pretty positive person, and I have a lot of things to be happy about. I have a lot of things to look forward to and be excited about, and even for me, there are many days when I just am down. I’m just not in a good mood necessarily for the day, and I try to be positive all the time, but some days you’re just off, and some days it’s easy to really get depressed.

05:38          And, as I was thinking about this, I was like, “What have I done in my past to work through this?” You know? What are those things that I’ve done that I do on a daily basis, or that I’ve done in the past when I’m feeling down and depressed, to kind of overcome those things? And, more specifically, what important parts of my life, what things have happened in my life that really gave me a perspective of why life is beautiful. Because one of the things that I’ve noticed, as I’ve dealt with a lot of people, is that it’s hard to be grateful or be thankful on a daily basis, if they don’t first have some form of relatively bigger emotion in life, that they like, had some perspective that life is good, right?

06:23          So if their whole life, if you for the last six, seven, eight, nine months, have been telling yourself like, “Life is bad, life is bad, life is bad, life is bad, life sucks”, right? Your mind, your body, based on quantum physics and everything that’s being involved in that, is going to bring that upon you. So, it really takes an entire shift in perspective, and an entire emotional change (and we talked about like, how beliefs are formed), to actually go about doing this. And so I was thinking about this, and I want to tell you a story, which is, I almost died, and I don’t mean that like figuratively, like, “Oh man, I almost like….”, no, like literally, I would have been dead, if it would’ve happened 10 minutes sooner. So, this story really brought a lot of perspective to my life about the beauty of life, and that life is worth living.

07:08          And, you know, just showed me…., it gave me a reason to be thankful to be alive and when I had that near-death experience, and obviously, you know, now I’ve dealt with the death of my brother as well, and just…, Dealing with that really puts a lot of things into perspective, and really like, gives you reason to be happy, to be alive. So anyway, I’m gonna dive into this. So, I have some friends that I grew up with. I love them to death. They’re like my best friends in the whole world, and they…, I mean, they like to party, right? I mean they’re kind of…, we were in the college…, this was several years ago when this happened. So, we were kind of in that like, parties phase. And the thing is, I wasn’t really ever a big partier, but I would attend these parties, or I would like attend…, go over to my friend’s house, and it was actually the house that I lived in for several months as I was getting my business started, when I couldn’t afford everything.

07:59          So anyway, they were having a party one night, and long story short, it got later, and later, and later, and the party kinda got crazier and crazier, and whatnot. And, and so, the night was getting kind of ready to wrap down, but when you have big house parties like people just show up, and we don’t really know who they are. And so, I was upstairs. I had gone to bed, the party was still kind of going on downstairs, but the party was going on downstairs still, and I get woken up from my bedroom to take a couple of people home. So there are a couple of people that didn’t…, they didn’t live too far away, and they were drinking, or whatever, and they couldn’t drive home.

08:40          So I was like, “Yeah, I’ll take them home. Just come wake me up if you need anything.” So, they come upstairs, and they wake me up, and my bedroom that I was staying in at the time, was upstairs, but it was on the front wall of the house. So it was like facing the street. And so, I get up, and I walk downstairs. They come in like… I walked downstairs, and I’m like, “Okay, let’s go.” And I look around at all the people that are still there, and a lot of them I had never seen before. I’m like, I didn’t recognize them, and a couple of them were some pretty big dudes, right? And I was like, “Man, that seems kind of sketchy.” But anyway, it’s a party, like whatever. So I leave, I take them home, and it’s not that far of a drive up.

09:21          I just like take them back, and I’m on my way back, and I get a phone call from my friend, who’s like, “Dude, dude, oh my gosh, like…, like, don’t come back, like….”, he’s freaking out on the phone, right? Just like, scared out of his mind. He’s like, “Are you okay? Are you safe?” And I’m like, “What? What’s going on dude? Like, what are you talking about? Like, yeah, good. I just dropped these…., I just dropped these people off and I just wanna come back, and I want to go to bed.” He’s like, “Dude, we just got…, the house just got shot up.” And I’m like, “What do you mean the house just got shot up?” He’s like, “Dude, there were people at the party, and we wanted to shut the party down. And so we like, we kicked him out, we threw…, you know, like told them to leave or whatever, and they went outside, and they wouldn’t leave or whatever.

09:56          And, all of a sudden they like, they shot up the house.” And I’m like, “What are you…, this is crazy.” And so, I ended up driving back to the house, and I circled a couple of times to make sure that like, everything was okay, and the car was gone, so I pulled up, and I run into the house, you know, cause we’re kind of terrified now. Like, we didn’t have guns, like, we didn’t know anybody who had guns, right? And, we go back inside and I was like, “Dude, what happened?” So he’s like telling me the story of what had gone down, and he’s like, “Dude, you know, we asked them to leave, and they got really rowdy, and they finally left. And then they were just sitting out there, and we opened the door, and they like started the car, but wouldn’t leave. And, so we were all kind of like huddled in, I was getting worried, and so we were all just sitting in the living room, and all of a sudden we hear these gunshots go off, and then we hear this, you know, a car just screech and leave.”

10:40          And so, after like, you know, several minutes, they kind of like looked out the window in the car was gone that they were in. And so we’re like, “Oh my gosh, this is crazy.” So naturally, we go outside and we’re…, you know, kind of searching to see like, did they shoot at a car, did they…, you know, break any windows, like what had gone on? And so, we go upstairs and I’m getting ready to go back to bed. And, I walk into the bedroom, and I turn on the light, and I’m like, “Oh my gosh.” And sure enough, one of the bullets had come through the house into a pillow and blown the whole entire pillow out.

11:19          And guess what? That pillow was where I was sleeping like 10 or 15 minutes beforehand. If I would have been there, I would have been dead. Like not figuratively speaking, not like, “Oh man, I could have been dead”, like no, like actually my face would have been blown off because it was through where my head lays. Like I know where my head lays on the pillow, boom! It is gone. And there’s a big old hole in the wall. And this was like a really…, like just a moment of just perspective for me, because during that time in my life, I was going through some stuff where like, I had reason to be happy and excited about life. I did, but I was kind of going through a low point. I was kind of depressed a little bit, and I was kind of wondering what God’s plan for my life was.

12:09          And I was like, “Man, what do I do from here? What’s this? I am just kind of like…, this.” And I was kind of like, trying to just figure out purpose, and trying to figure out what life was all about. And as I sat there, and I looked at that hole in the wall, and I looked at my pillow that had been blown apart, I was like, “Oh my gosh, like, I’m alive. I’m alive. And I’ve got two arms, and I’ve got two legs, and I could walk, and I can talk, and I can listen, and I can hear, and I can smell, and taste, and see. I have all those things.” And that brought so much perspective into my life, that like, I just always need to be grateful to be alive, simply to live. Like, I’m so thankful that I have hands, that I have feet, that I have a face, that I have the ability to figure this life out.

12:58          And I think that so often, we as humans, forget how good we have it, or forget the fact that we even have the opportunity to live. We have the opportunity to go out and create something. We have the ability to go out and create our own life. And like, it was just such a good reminder. And so, you know, that night, obviously, we called the police, and you know, the police came out and we showed them the hole, and we told them what happened, and they did a police report and did all that jazz, and, you know, as the police officer walked out, he just said, you know, “Be careful”, and…, you know, he left. And you know, you hear your parents all the time, you know, when you’re younger, and when you’re out going to parties, whether it was in high school, or college, or wherever, and they’re like, “Be safe. Be careful.” You know what I mean? Like, and you never think that something like that could potentially happen to you.

13:50          You never think that you’re going to be in that situation. We weren’t crazy people. It’s not like we were like, doing crazy, crazy, things, or inviting people that are going to shoot up a party into the house. Like, that’s not us. I don’t hang out with those people. My friends don’t hang out with those type of people. We’re “good people”, right? Just normal people, normal 20 some year old kids that want to have a good time, and wanting to…, you know, have fun with life. But it happened, and it really just put into perspective for me, like I said, just to be thankful for life each and every day. And so, the next morning as I woke up, and I will say, it took a while to get to sleep, I was a little bit shaken.

14:27          I woke up and I just…, I walked outside and I just took a lap around the house. I just walked around the block, and just gave thanks, and gave perspective to even just be alive, and to have the ability, like I said, to go out and create something. And so, I want to encourage you, and remind you, if you’re sitting there right now, and you’re like, “Man, I’m kind of struggling with depression, or I’m kinda struggling…”, maybe it’s not like, hardcore depression. You know what I mean? Maybe it’s not like, you’re suicidal…, suicidal thoughts or anything like that, because depression is a very, very, serious issue. But maybe it’s just like you’re having a bad day, or you don’t feel grateful, or you are just trying to find purpose, and maybe you’ve been in a slump for weeks or months. Sometimes what we need is just to take a step back, and look around at the life that you’re living right now currently, and give thanks for your ability to figure things out.

15:21          Give thanks for the ability to like to be able to change your situation. Because as I sat there, I was like, “You know what? I don’t want to live this type of life forever. I don’t want to be in a neighborhood my whole life, where I have to worry about this. I don’t want to have to worry about, you know, all these different things.” And you know what? I have the ability to go out and change my scenario. I have the ability to fight for something else. I have the ability to go out and change people’s lives. I have the ability to actually go out and fight for that. And guess what? It might not happen tomorrow. It might not happen next week. It might not even happen in six months or a year, but you have the ability to try. You have the ability to go and learn, and you have the ability to succeed with that, just like I do and everybody else out there does.

16:05          And so I just want to encourage you to take that time next time you’re feeling down, next time you’re like, “I just…, I don’t know, you know, I don’t really know how…, like, why I’m doing what I’m doing. I don’t really know why like, you know, why this isn’t working. Should I continue with this, and continue with that. Oh men, I just want to give up.” When you’re having those feelings, “My boyfriend, my girlfriend is overwhelming, my husband, my wife gets overwhelming.” Take a step back and go, “Thank you. Thank you God. Thank you universe.” Thank you whoever you want to say thank you to. For me it’s God, right? Thank you for the ability to live. Thank you for the ability to get better. Thank you for the ability to look at my husband, or wife, and go, “You know what? I choose to love you, and I choose to do whatever it takes to make this relationship work.”

16:52          Turn to your business partner, turn to your…, whoever it is, and go, “You know what? I’m so thankful for the ability to figure out how to put this course together. I’m so thankful for the ability to figure out this college class. I’m so thankful for the ability to love my kids. I’m so thankful for the ability to work at a job, and to make money, and to put food on the table, and I might not like my job right now, but I’m thankful for my job and I’m thankful for the ability to get better. I’m thankful for the ability to be able to change it.” And when you have that perspective, a lot changes in life. And as I was thinking about that today, it just reminded me that that ability is so valuable. It is so precious and it is such a blessing to be able to live that and do that.

17:37          And I wanted to share that with you, because I think it can really change people’s lives, and when you just take a step back, and get perspective on things and recognize the ability that you have, it really can change your life. And I’ll leave you with this. I was listening to a video, or I don’t know if it was a YouTube video, or where it was, a presentation by a mentor of mine, Sam Ovens. And he talks about how he tries to look at everything very objectively, and he tries not to let emotions get the best of him. And, oftentimes when you’re in the middle of a situation, it’s very hard to look at everything and really get a clear picture of what’s going on, and the good that you have, and the good that you’re experiencing. And sometimes, we do need to take an objective standpoint on the situation.

18:29          And that’s really, really helped me along my journey, to be able to go, “you know what? I’m overwhelmed right now. You know what? I’m…, you know, depressed right now, or I’m sad right now. Right now I’m feeling burnt out, or I’m feeling like I’m not making any progress.” To hit the pause button, take a step back, whether that’s…, you know, just for 15 minutes, whether it’s for an hour, a day, a week, however long it takes, to take that step back and go, “You know what? Life isn’t so bad. I have to choose to see the bright side of things. And I’m going to start by just giving thanks. I’m going to start by having an attitude of gratitude. I’m going to start by going out there, and just being thankful for every single thing that I get to experience in my life.” Alright guys, I hope this helped.

19:08          I hope this really brought a fresh perspective, and really makes you question the next time that you’re sad, what you’re really sad about, and allows you to pull out of that, and go, and continue to make the world a better place, and make your life better, and better the lives of those that you come in contact with. As always, hustle, hustle, God bless. Do not be afraid to think different, because those of us that think different, are the ones that change the world. Do something today that will make the world better. Buy someone’s meal, fill up their tank with gas. If you can’t afford it with money, smile at someone, or do some act of service. Just do something today that makes the world better. If we all do that, the world will be a better place. I love you all and I will see you on the next podcast episode. Take it easy fam. Peace.

19:55          Yo, what’s up guys? You’ve been listening to The Think Different Theory with myself, Josh Forti, which I like to call, “A new paradigm of thinking”, and real quick, I got a question for you. Did you like this episode? If you did, I want to ask a huge favor. See, the biggest thing that helps this podcast grow, and that will spread this message of positivity and making the world a better place, is if you leave a review, a rating and subscribe to the podcast. What that does is, it basically tells the platforms that this is out on, that you like my stuff, and that I’m doing something right. So if you could take like three seconds out of your day and subscribe, leave a rating, and a review, I would be forever grateful for you. Also, I want to hear from you. I want to know your feedback, your ideas, and your questions for future episodes. So be sure to hit me up on Instagram in the DM @JoshForti or via email contact@ThinkDifferentTheory.com.