WHAT IS THIS EPISODE ABOUT?
In this episode, I’m using a clip by Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson about going from having nothing to having great success. I’m going to riff on how most of us are always more prone to avoid risk than we are to go and do whatever it takes to achieve success and greater things.
WHY SHOULD I LISTEN?
100% of the time we are solely responsible for our successes or failures in life, and nobody can stop you from achieving what you want if you choose to forge on no matter what comes your way. I’m going to be candid and tell you all the things that you need to do, and the ones you must avoid, in order to achieve your dream life.
Here are the key topics discussed in this episode:
- Some inspiration from Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson (02:05)
- On the other side of your struggles lies success (06:55)
- The psychology of choosing or ignoring your potential for success (10:36)
- Your comfort zone is the biggest barrier to your success (14:32)
- You must take risks in order to achieve a better life (16:20)
- Keep pushing and never quit (18:06)
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April 24, 2019
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00:00 Becoming a millionaire? Nah, I’m good. I’d rather watch Netflix. Sounds ludicrous. Right? Yet, basically, almost everyone makes that choice every single day, and I’m gonna play you a clip by Dwayne Johnson that really inspired me, and kind of brought some good reminders of perspective, that when I saw it I was like, “Wow, this is something that I really think it needs to be talked about, and brought up”, because it was fascinating to me. And so, I’m going to play a clip for you by him and then we’re going to sit back, and kind of talk about and discuss it.
00:36 You are now entering a new paradigm.
00:36 So, here’s my issue. I wanted to find the answers to life’s biggest questions. Things like, how do I become happy and live with purpose? How do I make more money doing what I love, and what does it mean to be truly successful in all areas of life? My name is Josh Forti, @JoshForti on Instagram, and I ask life’s biggest questions and share the answers with you. My goal is to help you find purpose, happiness, and open your mind to new realms of possibility by helping you think differently about everything you do, know, and understand. On this podcast, we think different, we dream bigger, and we live in a world without limits. This is a new paradigm. Welcome to The Think Different Theory.
01:16 What’s up guys? Welcome back to another episode of The Think Different Theory. My name is Josh Forti and we are on episode number 55. Welcome back to the program. As I sit here and scroll through Instagram, shame on me for wasting time on Instagram, but no, as I sit here and I’m scrolling through Instagram, it baffles me and it’s quite amazing to me, how many people pose for lives that they don’t have. Pose in front of the sports car, pose in front of the mansion, the beach, travel all over the world, yadda, yadda, yadda, what have you. Right? And they like, try to live these fake lives on social media that they don’t actually have. It’s quite fascinating. I mean, like it’s so many people nowadays. And, it’s like, “Wow, okay.” But, the point I’m trying to make with this, I think is fascinating is, there’s nothing wrong with any of those things.
02:05 Having any of those things, doing any of those things. And, quite frankly, in life, you can actually go and live that life. You can actually go and have all those things. Yet most people choose to pretend that they have those things, and live in this fantasy world, and act like they have them when they really don’t, rather than just go out there, and actually do the work to go achieve them, and actually go live that life. And, it’s a fascinating concept to me, and I want to talk about that a little bit, hear on today’s episode, because I was scrolling through this, and I’m just like, “Oh my gosh. This is crazy.” But, one of the things that I stumbled upon as I scrolled through social media the other day, was a video by Dwayne Johnson, who as you guys know, Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson is very famous. Very, very successful.
02:50 And, he actually does live the life that he posts on Instagram and social media because he’s done the work to go achieve that. But, I was watching a video by him, that… he was sitting there in his car and he was kind of talking, he was in Hawaii, and he was talking about, well, I’m gonna play a clip here in a second, but basically he was talking about like, his journey to success, and you know, where he started and whatnot. Then I’ll play the clip here in a second. But, I wanted to sit here and I want to talk about this because there’s a concept that I want to touch on here, which is basically that humans are more prone to avoid risk than they are to go achieve success and greater things. And this is like, human psychology, like… like basic human psychology.
03:27 This is proven stuff. I’m not just making this stuff up on the spot. This is real, scientifically proven, or whatever you wanna call it. Proven data, and facts and Statistics, and whatever you want to say there. So, I want to dive into that, and I want to talk about that concept, and how it plays out in our own lives, and how… you know, where we grow up, and how we choose to live our lives, affects us, and how most people, if given the chance to become a millionaire, actually like, don’t take it. Like, most people don’t actually go and achieve their goals, even though they have full opportunity to go out and achieve their goals. Right? Like full opportunity. Alright, so I’m going to play you this clip by Dwayne Johnson and then we’ll kind of dive into that, and I want to talk about, like a poll that I ran on social media that kind of confirms and supports this, and all that, and what have you. Okay. So let’s dive in. Here’s the clip from Dwayne Johnson. It’s about three and a half minutes long. Listen up.
04:23 “So, every time I come back here to the islands, to Oahu, Honolulu where we used to live, I always make sure that I take a day, I go by myself, and I go visit all my old haunts. So, today I went by… well, first I visited my grandfather and my grandmother’s grave, then I went by my old high school, then I went by my old middle school, and all the places I used to get in trouble, all the places I used to get arrested. Oh, that’s where you got arrested for check fraud. Yeah. And that’s where you got arrested for theft. Yes. That’s where you got arrested twice for fighting. Yes, I did. Yes. Embarrassed the shit out of my family, by the way, but I also make sure that I go by where we used to live.
05:09 And… I’ve been parked outside here on the street, where we used to live, in this neighborhood for about an hour now, probably looking shady as all hell, like a creep in my Cadillac Escalade with very tinted windows. Somebody’s going to call the cops on me very soon, but I’ll show you where we used to live. It’s a three story apartment efficiency building, and I lived right there on the first floor, and I’ve been sitting out here for about an hour now, contemplative and I’m writing down a whole bunch of notes because I’m weird that way. I like to write down my thoughts, and it’s crazy because life is so ironic and so unpredictable. And, that’s the place where we were evicted from. And, that’s where we came home and there was an eviction notice on the door, and it said, “You gotta get your shit out of here. You got like 24 hours or something.”
06:05 And we were forced to move off the island, cause we couldn’t afford to pay the rent, but the irony is, as I’m sitting here, like a creep, every day when I used to leave this apartment, either go to school, or go do whatever, go get in trouble, or go to the gym, right across the street from this little apartment efficiency building is a massive, gorgeous, condominium building. A high rise. And, how’s that for irony? So I used to walk out, and… you know, we were struggling at that time. I slept in the bedroom. It was a one bedroom efficiency. I slept in the bedroom. My parents slept on the pullout couch in the living room. And every day I used to walk out, and I used to think, ” — man. It must be so cool to live in a place like that. I hope one day, you know, I could live in something like that. A week of living in something like that.
06:55 And now, ironically, years later, you know, I’m doing alright, but the point of this whole thing is, is if you are out there, and you’re struggling, and a lot of you are, and you’re struggling to make ends meet, struggling to pay the rent, you know, when you go eat at a restaurant, you got to look at the prices first before you actually look at the selections. I know what it’s like. I’ve been down that road, and that shit is hard. It ain’t easy, but I’m telling you that if you’re going through it, stay strong, have faith, keep pushing through. I’ve said this before, and I’m living proof of it, is that on the other side of your struggle is something good. On your other side of your struggle is something better.
07:36 On the other side of your struggle is some sort of success. So, keep pushing through if you’re struggling. And… and by the way, whoever lives in my apartment, I’m not going to say what number it is, cause I don’t want to blow you guys up, but in where we used to live or, or anywhere in this little building, and you’re going through it, stay strong, keep pushing through, because again on the other side is a little something better, because I’m living proof of that, because years later I am sitting right outside of your apartment, like a big creep. I won’t…. Now I’m going to hit my gym. Alright. Stay strong if you’re going through it. Life is funny and so unpredictable. It’s a wonderful life.”
08:18 Alright, so there’s the clip by Dwayne Johnson. You can hear the audio from him. He’s sitting there in Hawaii in his Escalade. And, what’s fascinating is, I kind of want to draw attention to the point right now, where he talks about the high rise condominiums across the street. Right? And, how he’s like, “You know what? Like I grew up in this one bedroom apartment where I slept in the bedroom, my parents slept on the couch, we got evicted because we couldn’t pay rent. And, you know, we literally got kicked out on the streets, and I would sit there, and I’d go, “Man, it would be so cool to be able to live in this high rise condominium one day. If we could do that or whatnot.” And, now obviously he’s gone on to amass huge success, and you know, huge wealth, and monetary success, and fame and all that.
08:58 But what was fascinating was, that I went and after I did this, I ran a poll on social media because I wanted to see if people thought, like if you live in a developed country, like not like some third world with no running water, no Internet, no clean food, you know, where people are dying, like actual, like a developed country in modern day society. I wanted to know, whether or not people thought, it was possible to go out and achieve success. I really did. I was like, you know what? I obviously believe it is. I believe anybody can achieve anything, and that’s the point of this podcast. But, I went out and I ran some polls on social media, and I asked some friends about it, and I… you know, I went through and I was like, “Okay like, do you believe that in modern day society right now, that anybody can go achieve success to the tune of let’s say $10 million, like monetary success? Do they have the opportunity to actually go out and do that? Like, the opportunity?”
09:56 And, more than half of the people there said yes, I think, I don’t know, I don’t remember what the exact statistics were, but some people said no, some people didn’t think… but, you know, I kind of talked them through it or whatnot. Like, I would say like more or less people agree that the opportunity is there, and that because of social media, because of the Internet, because of developed countries, and because of the world we live in right now, that pretty much anybody can become famous to a certain extent, can achieve wealth and success, and yadda yadda, what have you. Right? So I thought about this, I was like, “Okay, so if people cannot achieve, like if people have the opportunity and the ability to go achieve success, then why don’t they like what is it?”
10:36 And we just did a podcast episode about this not too long ago, when I talked about like the two types of unsuccessful people, but I want to dive into this a little bit further on a psychological level, from a… like a point of like, how people tend to make decisions and decide whether they’re going to go out and actually be successful or not, because I talked about it from a confidence issue, or a lack thereof of a confidence issue a couple of podcasts episodes back. But, as I kind of went and I studied this, I was like, “Okay, what are the type of people, that like Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, that have achieved like absolutely massive success, where did they come from and how were they able to go and do it, versus somebody that had the exact same opportunities as them, probably had a better situation, than say getting evicted and being homeless. Right? Why didn’t they go out and achieve that same level of success? Is it just a confidence issue?”
11:29 Cause I did get some messages back from some people that are like, “Well, you know, Josh, it’s truly just a competence issue”, yadda, yadda, yadda. What have you, right? So I dove into this a little bit further, and I was like, “Well, what’s interesting to me is that humans have this inherent nature inside of them, that they are way more prone to avoid losing something, avoid a crisis, than they are to take a risk to gain something.” Alright? So if I were to present with you an option to say, “Hey, listen.” Let’s say you were sitting on the couch, you’re a lazy bum all day, and whatnot, and I would say, “Listen. I have an opportunity for you, and if you do the work, you can put it… you know, you put in the work, you do all the stuff, or whatever, I will make you a millionaire.” Right?
12:11 Like, you do all the work, you hustle your butt off. Like, this is for sure going to make you a millionaire, versus if I were to come to you and say, “Listen, if you don’t go do this right now, you are going to lose everything.” Right? Like, you’re going to be super, super uncomfortable, and you’re going to… you know, not have a couch to sit on anymore, Netflix or whatever, we are way more driven, and will take way more action, to avoid losing what we have, than we will to gain the same amount the other direction. Right? So if I was like, “Hey, you got $100,000 right now. I’m either going to pull this a hundred thousand dollars away from you unless you do this, or hey, I’m going to give you a hundred thousand more dollars.” You’re 10 times… or I don’t know, this is just a statistical number, but you’re way more likely to do something to avoid losing than you are to gain something.
13:00 And so I was like, “Huh, okay.” And what I realized was, someone like Dwayne Johnson, they didn’t have a lot to lose when they first got started. Now, I want you think about this, and I’ve said this before, and I firmly actually believe this, because it’s true in my own life, someone that comes from nothing, someone that comes from the hood, someone that comes from… you know, being homeless, or getting evicted, or whatever, they don’t have a whole lot to lose. Right? Like, they are already at the bottom. And so, if I were to go to like a homeless dude and be like, “Yo, I’m going to take away everything you have”, he’s going to be like, “Okay, like whatever, like I don’t have anything for you to take away.” Versus someone that grew up with a cell phone, a car, you know, parents, a roof over their head, three meals a day, money in the bank, you know, and I were to say, “Hey, I’m going to take everything away if you fail.”
13:47 They’re going to be like, “Whoa, I better not fail.” Right? And so, on the flip side of that, it’s way easier for that person at the bottom to take a huge risk with a big, huge upside, than someone that has a lot to lose to take that risk with a big, huge upside, because think about it, if I were to say, “Hey look. You want to start a business, and if you fail in your business, what’s the worst that could happen?” For the homeless dude, or for the dude that’s barely scraping by, that’s you know, couch hopping, that barely has a cell phone, that doesn’t have any money in the bank, or whatever. He’s like, “Dude if I risk everything, everything I’ve got, I go all in on this. I’m basically going to be right where I left off now.” I’m to be broke, I’m going to be homeless, and I’m going be unhappy. Whoopty Doo.”
14:32 So, he’s going to go give it all he’s got and take the risk, because the upside for him, is millions of dollars, or hundreds of thousands of dollars, or success and comfort, whatever, what have you. On the flip side of that, if I were to go to someone that’s making $75,000 a year, that has a… you know, I don’t know, BMW, lives in a nice apartment, what have you, and I were to go to them and I would say, “Hey dude, you should take this race. You’re going to go, you’re going to make hundreds of thousands of dollars, $1 million, be successful, whatever it is”, you know, same exact offer as I did to the homeless guy. He’s going to sit there and he’s going to be like, “Man, if I fail, then I’ll lose my BMW. I got to downgrade the house, kind of embarrassing, and lose some money.” He’s got a lot to lose, and so he is not going to make a decision to move forward, or is less likely to make the decision to take that risk and move forward, than the homeless guy is, or the guy that, you know, is a guy or girl that’s not… doesn’t have a lot to lose out of the deal.
15:27 Why? Because there’s a risk factor that’s involved there. And so, I truly believe that in the American economy, in the developed modern world, that someone that grew up with nothing, it’s easier for them, and it is more likely, maybe not easier, but like more likely for them, to actually go and have immense amount of success, than it is for the comfort person in the middle class growing up. Because I know so many people that grew up in the middle class, that never leave the middle class. I know more people, a lot that have achieved success, that came from nothing. That classic rags to riches story. You know why there are so many rags to riches stories, and you hear them from people that had nothing, because people that have nothing, have nothing to lose, and everything to gain, so they’re going to take a massive amount of risk.
16:20 But so many of us are sitting there on the couch and are going, “Oh, I could be a millionaire? No, I’m good. Netflix… Netflix is cool. Do you know what I mean? Like, I’m going Netflix, and beers on Friday nights, and… you know, and chilling.” And, once again, nothing inherently wrong or evil about that, but I see so many people in America today, complaining about certain things, saying like, “Oh man, it’s not fair. The rich keep getting richer, the… you know, yadda, yadda, yadda, yadda, keeps getting yadda, yadda.” Right? Like, whatever it is that they’re complaining about, not realizing that those people took massive amounts of risk and probably lost a lot, or they started from nothing, had nothing to lose, and risked it all, and got to where it is. And so, right now, like you know, I listened to Dwayne Johnson, and I… you know, I listened to the clip that he said and it’s very inspiring. It’s very motivational. Right?
17:13 And he’s… going there. He’s like, “Listen like if you’re struggling right now, keep pushing. It’s totally possible. And it is.” And if you’re struggling right now, I want to reiterate what Dwayne Johnson said, and I want to say there is more likely of a chance, I believe, for you to be successful right now. If you’re struggling to pay the bills, if you’re struggling to keep the lights on, if you’re struggling to put food on the table, if you don’t know where your next paycheck is going to come from, if you don’t… you know, if you’re struggling to pay debt off, or whatever, I believe that there’s a better chance for you to ultimately go and be successful than there is for the comfortable person to go be successful, as long as you continue to push yourself outside of the comfort zone. And, for those of you right now that are comfortable, that do have a lot of risks, to lose or potential loss, because you do have some money in the bank, you do have a nice car, you’re in the situation, maybe like I am right now. Right?
18:06 Or maybe not quite that, or maybe a little bit more. Right? Like, you’re in this middle-class scenario. You’ve got to continually push yourself to be uncomfortable. You’ve got to continually push yourself to go and say, “No. I’m not going to stay comfortable with where I’m at, because I’m determined to get to the next level.” And here’s the thing, in our brains, we’ve got this thing that says, “Oh my gosh, I have so much to lose here. So we’re going to default to safety.” But in reality, how the world works, and how the universe is set up, and how the economy is set up, and how everything around us works. If you continue to just push, if you continue to never quit, and you continue to never give up, it is literally impossible to fail forever. Well, you’ve got to have success, because you continue to learn, you continue to learn, continue to apply.
18:50 If you just never give up, you will continue to move forward. And so, for those of you right now that are struggling, and are sitting out there like, “Ah, aaaargh, I want to just live in a high rise someday, it’d be so cool to be able to afford a nice car someday, or to travel the world someday, or maybe go be super duper famous.” Take the risk now, because the more success you have, the harder it is to take risks. So many people I see say, “Man, well if I had $10,000 in the bank, if I had 50 grand in the bank, if I had 1 million bucks, if I had X, if I had Y, if I had Z, then, of course, I would go do this. And in reality, that’s not the case, because now you’ve got more to lose. Now you’re taking a bigger risk because, oh my gosh, you’re putting that much money out there, because you have that much money. And if you lose it, it’s your money.
19:36 It’s your risk, it’s your loss, and your brain wants to avoid that at all costs because that’s embarrassing. But when you’ve got nothing to lose, go act like it, and go all in, and give it your all. And if you are comfortable, get out of your comfort zone, and don’t replace and substitute Netflix, or a millionaire status with Netflix, or mass success with Netflix, I mean, unless, of course, that’s what you want, but at the end of the day, you have the ability to go out and achieve success. At the end of the day, you have the ability to go out there and change your life for the better. And I believe, that if you’re broke right now if you’re struggling right now, it’s a heck of a lot easier for you to get to the top, because you get to train your mind from the bottom. You get to train your actions from the bottom.
20:24 You get to set the tone without anything to lose and say, “This is how I’m going to choose to live my life.” If you’re comfortable right now, you’ve got years and years of comfort forming habits to protect that little environment that you’re in right now. And if you’re trying to get to the next level, comfort will absolutely kill you. So get out of your comfort zone, go risk it all, and understand that you can go and achieve great success. You can go and achieve anything that you want to achieve if you put your mind to it, and if you do not let comfort creep in, and hold you to where it is that you’re at right now. Alright? Alright, guys. That’s all I got for you. I hope this podcast episode was helpful. It’s a little bit more kind of… just some thoughts.
21:10 I didn’t really script this one out as much. I just thought this was some interesting, you know, off the top of my head type of thoughts as I was thinking about this whole thing. So, I’d love to know your thoughts back on this, whether you liked it, or you didn’t like it, and… yeah, it was… it was fun to…. to record this one to kind of get my thoughts out there on this, cause I truly believe this. I truly believe that if you come from nothing, you have a better chance of being successful in making it than… if you, you know, come from the comfort and come from money, or like, you know, middle-class status of it all, because…. I mean, I know it was for me. When I first got started, man, I was fearless. I had nothing to lose.
21:44 I was broke anyway. But once I started getting five grand, 10 grand, 25 grand, 30 grand, 40 grand, $50,000 sitting in the bank, I was like, “Oh my gosh, I got stuff to lose man. Like, Oh man, I got… I could lose this if I risk it all.” And I got comfortable and I stopped growing for a while, because I didn’t take risks and I got caught in my comfort zone, and it’s a constant battle every single day. Alright guys, that’s all I’ve got for you. As always, hustle, hustle, God bless. Do not be afraid to think different because those of us that think different, are going to be the ones that change the world. I love you all and I will see you on the next podcast episode. Take it easy fam. Peace.
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